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#31 Pianopiano

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Posted 03 February 2020 - 04:12

Yes, northerners are a million times more friendly than most.

If you can get on with your teacher as a friend that's brilliant. Someone told me I just had bad luck. That sucks.
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#32 Latin pianist

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Posted 03 February 2020 - 06:58

I do know lots of friendly southern teachers too!
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#33 Pianopiano

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Posted 03 February 2020 - 17:53

Of course!! :-)
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Posted 06 February 2020 - 10:01

I come from a culture where that sort of thing is seen as acceptable, and I'm not offended if people question whether the issue at hand is because of a cultural difference. All cultures have elements of good and not good.

I know someone from a SE Asian culture (living there, not in the U.K.) who used to whack her children’s hands with a cane if they played a wrong note. It wasn’t very long ago, either.  When her Brit husband objected, she’d just whack him, too.

I heard this from a close relative of hers who certainly disapproved, but I gather that it was not generally seen as absolutely unacceptable, more as an undesirable but productive  ‘inducement’ to achieve. 


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Posted 06 February 2020 - 11:55

I met someone who had had violin lessons as a child (in this country) that involved the pointy bit of a pair of compasses being positioned so as to discourage bad bowing technique.


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Posted 06 February 2020 - 14:42

I have a 9 year old violin pupil. He goes to China for 6 weeks every summer with his family and he has violin lessons while he is away. He told me he prefers me as a teacher because when he makes a mistake I just tell him what was wrong and show him how to correct it. I asked him what does his Chinese teacher do and he said "She whacks me on the back of the legs with a stick",


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Posted 06 February 2020 - 14:44

A piano teacher (not mine)  in my home town in the 50's/60's would stand by you and rap you with a ruler if you played wrong note


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#38 Pianopiano

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Posted 06 February 2020 - 18:14

Clearly a lot of people shouldn't be teaching. As a parent I wouldn't allow anyone to mistreat my child like that.
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Posted 06 February 2020 - 22:41

It's easy to see the cruelty and stupidity of the past. It's much harder to see the cruelty and stupidity of today. We live in an age where kids kill themselves because of online bullying, bullying facilitated by technology that we designed, made and advertised to them. Even on the physical side, it's a moot point which does the greater harm in the long run, being whacked with a ruler, or living in a flat where you've got a busy road full of stupidly large SUVs queuing and spewing out fumes on one side, and someone chain-smoking cannabis on the other. We probably need to get our decade's problems sorted out before we claim the moral high ground.

Sorry, that was a bit depressing! There are, of course, an awful lot of things we're getting right.


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Posted 07 February 2020 - 17:01

I've been both bullied as well as whacked by a ruler, and the former had much more of an impact.
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Posted 07 February 2020 - 17:25

Parents should be withdrawing their kids from these lessons. Why would any child enjoy this? It's abusive mentally and physically.
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Posted 07 February 2020 - 17:42

Parents should be withdrawing their kids from these lessons. Why would any child enjoy this? It's abusive mentally and physically.


I think parents would these days. I don't see my sister putting up with it of my niece had that sort of lessons. But at the time that I did, it was quite common and many teachers taught that way.

I'm not sorry that times have changed
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Posted 07 February 2020 - 19:53

Very weird that it was seen as acceptable at all. Very worrying. It's only music. It's not the army.
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Posted 07 February 2020 - 20:09

It is a different culture. They also didn't believe in educating girls, a long time ago. Not saying that's acceptable either
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Posted 07 February 2020 - 20:49

It's only music.

And for some people music is their life. While you may not value it (or so your comment suggests) for others it is everything and being yelled at means nothing compared to that.
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