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#20206 mel2

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Posted 20 November 2019 - 13:32

It almost looks as if the organisation is being deliberately discouraging. Did they invite the choir, or did the director offer your services?
I know amateur pianists sometimes play an instrument in these properties but volunteers' standards must vary.
I wonder if the Head of Corporate Whatever has advised them to issue fewer 'giveaways'?
Withdrawing the free guest tickets is understandable but it's unacceptable to make you sing outside (unless you are standing round a charity donations bucket - hadn't thought of that one!)
They should offer tea and cake for sure!

Feeling a bit bolshie as I was today dis-invited from giving a free background music recital at a charity do (no fee, and bring my own keyboard!) because they've had another offer.
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Posted 20 November 2019 - 13:40

It almost looks as if the organisation is being deliberately discouraging. Did they invite the choir, or did the director offer your services?
I know amateur pianists sometimes play an instrument in these properties but volunteers' standards must vary.
I wonder if the Head of Corporate Whatever has advised them to issue fewer 'giveaways'?
Withdrawing the free guest tickets is understandable but it's unacceptable to make you sing outside (unless you are standing round a charity donations bucket - hadn't thought of that one!)
They should offer tea and cake for sure!

Feeling a bit bolshie as I was today dis-invited from giving a free background music recital at a charity do (no fee, and bring my own keyboard!) because they've had another offer.

 

That's very rude of them!

 

I think that was has happened is that our chair agreed, assuming it would be the same deal as last year, and when she found that it wasn't, was too 'polite' to say 'sorry, no'.

 

They asked us back, after we sang twice for them last year, with the free entry. Maybe they think they're doing us some kind of favour, letting us sing at their event!


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Posted 20 November 2019 - 14:02

 

They asked us back, after we sang twice for them last year, with the free entry. Maybe they think they're doing us some kind of favour, letting us sing at their event!

 

 

I can well imagine this is the case.  Some think that 'exposure' is adequate reward for people giving of their services.

 

My new way to waste time is reading a site called 'Choosing Beggars' which shows extracts from instagrams (?) and chatrooms.

You wouldn't believe how many people think they shouldn't have to pay artists and designers because having their worked 'showcased' (by complete nonentities) is sufficient recompense. 

 

Don't be bamboozled!


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Posted 20 November 2019 - 15:09

What about local halls? You are not being insane, I'd be uneasy as well. Talk to her and see if she can suggest alternative options? 


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Posted 20 November 2019 - 17:08

We were already booked to busk on that day, which would have made us a bit of cash and given us exposure in the right place rather than halfway across the county (I hadn't said I'd go because I hate singing outside in the winter...!). I will have to carefully craft an email. I'm sure it won't be the only one! But if I don't, it'll turn out that no one had the guts to object.
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Posted 21 November 2019 - 09:22

I know the feeling Banjogirl. I remember pointing out to my band conductor that the busking gig we had just done involved us all having to park in an expensive town centre car park because there was nowhere else close enough for carrying all our heavy equipment, and that if we had all just donated our parking fees to the band then that would have come to more than we earned by busking. I felt like the socially awkward odd one out/ bean counter! However, he did agree and took the comment on board.


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#20212 Banjogirl

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Posted 21 November 2019 - 11:32

I know the feeling Banjogirl. I remember pointing out to my band conductor that the busking gig we had just done involved us all having to park in an expensive town centre car park because there was nowhere else close enough for carrying all our heavy equipment, and that if we had all just donated our parking fees to the band then that would have come to more than we earned by busking. I felt like the socially awkward odd one out/ bean counter! However, he did agree and took the comment on board.

I've made this point more thqan once to the chorus. It always falls on deaf ears!


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Posted 21 November 2019 - 14:14

Join the club! ...and in my (semi-bitter) experience, if your advice for changes is ever taken, in a week everyone has forgotten how much effort you put in to getting the improvement accepted, or even remembers that it was your idea, but, believe me,  you retain your reputation in perpetuity  as 'the one who is always complaining'.


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#20214 Banjogirl

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Posted 21 November 2019 - 14:49

Join the club! ...and in my (semi-bitter) experience, if your advice for changes is ever taken, in a week everyone has forgotten how much effort you put in to getting the improvement accepted, or even remembers that it was your idea, but, believe me, you retain your reputation in perpetuity as 'the one who is always complaining'.


Spot on!
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Posted 21 November 2019 - 14:53

We made a lot of bad decisions regarding stage clothes and wasted a lot of money. I took on the job of wardrobe, not because it's really my forte, but because I didn't want any more similar mistakes being made. It actually worked quite well because I have two minions (their choice of name!) who do all the real work, but they let me take the rap for any complaints, which I'm happy to do. And meanwhile, no more wardrobe disasters. I also have complete control over the chorus website because so few people seem to be able to spell or punctuate, and some people have no filter! Doing it yourself seems to be the only way to ensure things are done right.
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Posted 26 November 2019 - 12:07

I have just had a stressful  moment.On Friday evening  a week ago I said goodbye to a father who came to collect his boys from thier lesson and  I wished him well as he was leaving immediately for Mali.  He will be on active service there for 3 months, for, I think, the third time. I turned on the telvevision just before lunch today to hear that 13 French soldiers had been killed in a helicopter accident during  an anti-terrorist operation in Mali. It was then said  that among those lost were 7 men from a regiment based in the town where the boys father is stationed when in France. It was just over an hour before they gave names and to my immense relief, he was not one of those killed... My thoughts and prayers are with the families who have lost someone. I am simply relieved that my five pupils still have a father.


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Posted 27 November 2019 - 14:46

Chef Gary Rhodes has passed away at the far too young age of 59  :(


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Posted 27 November 2019 - 14:56

I heard that too! It is sad when people die before 80 even if they are bad people. 


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Posted 27 November 2019 - 16:11

And now Clive James ( aged 80).


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Posted 27 November 2019 - 17:48

And Jonathan Miller. He was the speaker at my graduation in the early eighties.
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