Saying Goodbye - Loss of a child
Posted 09 July 2019 - 18:05
Here, each year special services are held in various towns for parents who have lost a child, or had a miscarriage. An organist friend plays at one and it is very moving. Whole families take part and it is a chance to say goodbye, for the siblings perhaps more consciously than at the funeral which takes place in such stress.
I had a look in the internet and it seems that there is an organisation in England under www.sayinggoodbye.org > Menu > Remembrance Services which looks similar. It might be worth looking at for those who would be glad of the chance to grieve without being “cheered up” by well-meaning friends.
Posted 10 July 2019 - 07:13
Thanks mm. Do you personally know more about her, or the organisation? I found it through the 'back door', linking directly to the open services, like we have here; I was a bit disturbed when I opened the main page to see how much was about Zoe Clark-Coates herself. Normally this puts me off sites - to a Swiss way of thinking, it sounds very American. (Sorry guys). However, looking at her history, this is all valid. Stories of what pain families go through, not only through the loss, but through total incomprehension of the situation from folk who should know better, are pretty horrific. Widows and widowers don't fare much better either. When will we learn?
Posted 10 July 2019 - 13:08
I do know what you mean about Z C-C. But she has done a huge amount to raise the profile and understanding of baby loss.
If that means that parents are less likely to feel they have suffer alone, behind closed doors, or to put up with the wrong kind of reaction, that has to be good.