Hi Tridentcello, and welcome to the forums

When I started learning an instrument, I couldn't read music at all but I don't remember my teacher spending a great deal of time on it or thinking that it was a big deal - as others have said, there are so many issues with any instrument (I'm clarinet) which are much more important. I posted about this fairly recently so I've copied the relevant paragraphs.
QUOTE(skylark @ Apr 3 2008, 08:48 PM)

I remember my clarinet teacher telling me when I first started clarinet three years ago that the notes/fingerings were the least important part of it. I couldn't understand that at the time - to me the notes/fingerings were *everything* when I first started, but I understand now that there are so many other things which are more important... breathing, intonation, embouchure, technique, rhythm to name just a few. I would also add that without a teacher to give focus, direction, feedback, it's very easy drift and eventually lose motivation.
Several years ago I decided to re-teach myself the recorder - I'd learnt at school and I got my old books out and went through them, re-learning all the fingerings. I thought I'd done really well, I could play some of the music I wanted to play and I was well pleased with myself. Then I made the mistake of getting together with a friend of mine for a "jamming" session. She was around Grade 5, and when I heard her play, I realised that really, I knew nothing. Yes I knew the notes, but I had no idea about rhythm, articulation, correct technique or anything else that would have enabled me to be a "proper" recorder player. I was so demoralised that I didn't touch my recorder again for another two years

Then I decided to take up the clarinet instead and this time I did it right - I got a teacher

All the posts recommending that you get a teacher must sound a bit dispiriting if you were hoping to teach yourself, but truly it's the most helpful thing that anyone can say. Don't let it put you off asking questions though... it's just that most people find that asking questions on here is good for support in-between lessons rather than a substitute for lessons.
Hope you enjoy looking round the forums

skylark
Edit. Tridentcello, I wrote the above post whilst you were posting your most recent message and I've only just seen it. Please don't give up on the forums, they're very helpful normally and it's just unfortunate that a lot of the advice you've received (including mine) has not been about what you've asked. But people ARE trying to be helpful, albeit not in the way you expected. Do spend some time having a look around and contributing to some of the other non-cello threads, and hopefully you'll get to realise the many benefits of this place.